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5 Way to Say NO to People Who Want to Greet Your Dog (without feeling bad about it)

The #1 advice EVERYONE says is when you ask, “How do I stop my dog from jumping up?”

The advice is: “Stop letting them jump up”

BUT… how do you do that when people insist on greeting your dog. Here’s the really frustrating thing when it comes to training dogs. Its management. How many times have you heard people or trainer say ‘If he’s jumping up, stop him from jumping so he will stop learning its okay to jump’

Yet, that can feel impossible when you meet people who just want to say hi to your dog, probably because your dog looks adorable and dog lovers truly cannot help themselves, even if you say ‘They will jump’, dog lovers do not care, which is fine… BUT it goes against what you trying to achieve with your dog, and saying ‘no’ can feel rude. As a fellow dog lover, I find it hard to not want to say hi to a dog, however, I know how frustrating it is to handle a dog then goes CRAZY to see people and jump on them because some people are okay with it. There are lots of people who actually feel frightened by dogs jump, especially big breeds as a small child or frangile person could easily break hip or arm from an innocent jump, and this where find my most of my clients get stuck. They are worried about their dog can potentially cause IF they jump, yet have no clue how to STOP the behaviour when people are okay with jump-crazy dog loving. They know theirs dogs learn by habit, so the more they do a behaviour the stronger it becomes. For example, the more the dog jumps up at people, the more the dog learns its okay to jump up and will continue to jump up on e.v.e.r.y.o.n.e and even start pulling to every person they see for stranger love, The same also applies for nervous dog who being petted would be the worst thing to them, and people will say ‘they are good with dogs, and they are friendly’ and owners feel stuck on what to say. They REALLY want to say no but feel like a bad person. Okay. So let’s dive into firstly why do we feel bad about it? 90% of my students in my Life skills Membership, said they hated saying ‘no you can’t stroke my dog’ or struggled to stop them, when I asked why they felt that way, they shared with me something that blew me away a little bit… They didn’t want people to think they were rude by saying. They felt embarrassed saying so because it would that they hadn’t got a trained dog. They didn’t want people to judge their dog or even how they are choosing to train their dog. Truth is, they wanted them to say hi, and at the same time they REALLY need their dog to learn not to jump. It can feel we are denying them access. As we spoke about this rather deep topic, I was reminded of a time where I was in the exactly the same boat, that I felt ashamed of my dog was behaviour and it was easier to let people say hi then wrestle and defend why I don’t want them to say. However, it did not serve me in the long run, and the jumping just got worse, barking started to happen along with pulling and whining. I got to the point where my NO because very strong, I defended my no and built up this resilience to say no and know its okay, because it was the right choice for me and my dog and our future. And the big reminder that, probably 90% of the time, people are not judging us, it’s the thought we create and we judge ourselves. I asked 10 of my dog loving friends what they would feel if someone said no, guess what? They would not hate you. They would feel disappointed, but they understand. They would forget about it in less than 30 seconds. At the end of the day, you are living with your dog for the next 10 years or so, that person will only be in the moment with for 10 seconds. This is your dog; you get to create the rules around it and it’s a really