It’s not your fault – until it is.
Last week I spoke to yet another dog owner who was CONSUMED by what other people thought about of her dog, Things like ‘Look out of control her dog is’ ‘Does she not train her dog?!’ Her dog was about 14 months old, Pulls like a train, jumps at everyone he sees and ‘acts’ completely deaf when his owner calls him, Anyone else had this experience? She was sharing how things seem to be getting worse, It started a few weeks back when her dog ran up to another dog on lead, To this lady’s panic, she bellowed her dog to return. Nothing. She started to fear the worst, like someone dropped a brick in her stomach – she sprinted after him, BUT She was too late, The on-lead dog turned pinned her dog to ground, All the lady heard was a loud cry, she looked up and saw the other owner pulling their dog back. Her dog got to his feet and retreated to her feet. She was in shock. THEN The man of the on-lead dog came marching towards her, asking why she didn’t have her dog on lead? Telling her that this couldn’t of been WORSE.
Holding back the tears she apologised, put on her dogs lead and walked home. Sadly, I see and hear this happen daily.
Owners walking home feeling alone,
Frustrated with themselves that they SHOULD done better,
There’s something wrong with them which is why their dogs not well-behaved,
Then theres that heart sinking moment when you enter your home,
Where you watch dog curl up all cute and reflect on the reality of what’s just happened. For me, that’s a breakdown in tears and devastation.
For the lady I spoke to, she did the same.
She was scared people were going to name her as the irresponsible dog owner, who doesn’t care about others or even her own dog,
She also felt frustrated as she LOVED her dog and has been trying to solve the problems through YouTube videos, Facebook group – but it just wasn’t working.
Then the thought of ‘Do I rehome him?’
This question will bring all sorts of emotions up. I asked her, is that what YOU want?
She said no, never.
I asked, what’s making you feel you need to rehome him?
She said, ‘I can’t fix it, there I don’t feel I deserve him, my partner is getting frustrated more and more with him and I don’t know what to do’
We had a fantastic chat that grounded with the exact steps of what to do and why nothing was working.
The first step was her for to understand that she was NOT the problem, this was NOT her fault, she can 100% have a relaxed, obedient dog who comes when called and is also happy.
The ‘problem’ is that the dog has no idea what she is asking him to do, they both were speaking different languages,
And finally, knowing that she is the most responsible owner because she made the choice to receive help and support and not ignoring it. She cared. People who care ARE responsible.
Have you worried about what people say about you and your dog?
If you are committed to solving and teaching your dog news to behave then in my book, you are the most responsible dog owners I know.
Don’t give up on your dream because of an innocent accident, it’s a learning opportunity, conquer the battle and be victorious!
P.S. If you have no idea where to start, then shoot me message and we can start the road together.